Know Your Shopping

Singles Online dating can unquestionably introduce you to some really wonderful fine individuals – and you can get involved in some deep relationships. You might even meet your future wife or husband. You never know. Nonetheless, there are still some risks involved with online dating! This is one of the reasons why I put this great article together, that outlines some risks that you need to be careful for. I don’t want to discourage you though – free online singles dating can really be fun! Just know the risks and you’re miles ahead of many others.

1. The first lesson in safety for online dating beings with your profile. You don’t want to reveal all your personal information in your profile for the world to see. You should only speak with the other members through the messaging system of the internet dating site. Once you feel more comfortable, you can choose to reveal your personal info and maybe even go out on a date. And if you do determine that the person you are talking to is a creep – and it is bound to happen – your personal data is confidential because you are applying the electronic messaging system of the singles dating online site.

2. If and when you do settle to go out on a date, I would unquestionably not have them come to your house for dinner or any other reason. Not a good idea! and No, you should not even make them pick you up at your house. You can figure out a place to meet so you don’t have to give out your address till you are more comfortable.

3. Another thought is to make the date a double date, perhaps with one of your friends that also is into dating online. This is good for 2 reasons – there’s someone you know with you, and you can also have a way to leave without your date if they’re boring!

4. You should never have the first date in a private area or secluded place. This could get you in a dangerous situation. You don’t truly know these people you meet online. A eating place or some open space like a park is a much better idea. It’s constantly better to be safe than sorry!

5. You probably shouldn’t booze on the first date. If you really have to – just have a few. And don’t have your date get your drink. Get it from the barman or server. And don’t leave your drink alone (like if you goto the bathroom).

6. You should make sure someone (roommate or friend) knows where you’re going or at least when you should be expected back. This way, if something were to happen, whether it’s an accident or something else, you’ll know that someone knows where you were.

By holding to these simple rules, you know some tips to keep yourself safe with singles online dating sites. Since you know that you will be safe – you can now have some fun when you go out on your date with your new online partner!

Well there is only 152 days left until I get married! I should introduce myself, I am Alan and I was what I thought was happily married for 17 years until this past June. Then I wasn’t. That quick. Long story and we will get into it as it comes up naturally, no lies and little sugar coating. Life is real. This is reality. Faced with the distinct possibility of being single for the rest of my life,(I am almost 50 and almost 350lbs!) I came face to face with the terrible shock of my baby brother’s sudden death! Of natural causes no less! Now at 43 years old you don’t expect someone to just keel over no matter how they lived. And he lived! Oh how he lived. That may be a book in itself someday but the shock must have done something to my brain because I woke up saying “I want to survive, no I want to really live!”

Coming to grips with all that had happened last year didn’t even begin to prepare me for what would come next. Well in the process of consoling some of my brother’s friends, I started writing to a girl that he knew when they were little. You know, same grade school, same high school, that kind of thing. They were pretty close and something sparked between them but my brother was a difficult person even back then and nothing became of it. The girl, Debby, married, had 3 wonderful boys, and was living in the same city that they both grew up in but they still drifted apart, even though Brian was the God-father of Debby’s first born, Jason. Well when Debby heard that my brother Brian had died, she was devastated. Part guilt, the rest profound sadness gripped her until she started to talk to her good friend’s older brother, who was only trying to console her. That’s when it happened. Both of us realized that by talking online we were compatible with each other. Well my father invited Debby to a family picnic because she was so close to Brian and he wouldn’t be there and well I picked her up and drove her and drove her home. Well we hit it off and the rest is history. Yeah right. Never happens. The rest is continuing to happen and in the coming months we will grow closer to each other and decide that we will spend the rest of our lives together. Now I’m no Prince Charming and most of Debby’s Sleeping Beauty days were spent with someone who never appreciated her, but we love each other and you would be surprised how good we look to each other because of it. Or maybe you wouldn’t be surprised. Ever been in love? Really? Well lets see what happens next. Every day like the first and be thankful. That is my mantra for this second time around. We will see if we have learned anything from history, or if we are doomed to repeat it.

Alan is a freelance writer and has written articles on other subjects as well but most of them have a dry wit and a grandfatherly wisdom that hopefully is enjoyable to read.